GRIEVING

Grieving is not just sadness or depression—it is a wide range of emotions, from fear and aggression to guilt, confusion, relief, and much more. It does not affect only emotions but penetrates every aspect of life—work, relationships, and self-image are all influenced by it.

 

Grief also places a heavy burden on the body, which can manifest in various physical reactions, including:

 

• loss of appetite or a tendency to overeatt

• abnormal weight loss

• reduced energy, excessive fatigue, and listlessness

• agitation and nervous tension

• difficulty falling asleep or waking up in the middle of the night

• exhaustion

• a feeling of tightness in the throat

• a sensation of not being able to breathe

• nervosity, tension

Sometimes, physical symptoms are the only sign that grief has not yet been fully processed.

 

Source: Helping with Loss and Grief – Manu Keirse

 

 

PROCESSING GRIEF

 

Time heals all wounds is a common belief.

 

However, it is not simply the passage of time that brings healing, but rather the expression of grief over time and the support received from others. Acknowledging grief brings more relief than pushing it away, silencing it, or bottling it up. When emotions cannot be expressed as emotions, they often manifest in physical ailments, emotional hardness, or bitterness.

 

People who are grieving often ask themselves:

 

• Is it normal that I still feel so sad after months?

• Will I ever be able to enjoy and love life again?

• Why do I struggle to concentrate? Why do I keep forgetting things, and why do I feel so exhausted even though I have hardly done anything?

• Is it normal that I feel so rebellious and aggressive that people avoid me?

• Why do my children almost never mention their father, and why do they respond evasively when I ask about him? 

 

Grief is always individual and unique—no two people grieve in the same way. Personal experiences, the nature of the relationship, the age at which a loss occurs, and individual life circumstances all make each grieving process different and deeply personal.

 

EMOTIONAL TENSION

 

Over time, emotional tensions inevitably lead to physical tensions. Unprocessed emotions become trapped in the body.

 

Life presents many moments of grief—a divorce, job loss, the end of a friendship, or the absence you experienced in childhood. If you are not used to dealing with sadness and tend to push emotions away, you may eventually experience a range of symptoms: difficulty sleeping, physical pain, excessive worrying, low energy, and an overwhelming sense of exhaustion.

 

During a craniosacral-therapy session, these emotions can be gently and safely released. As a result, you begin to process, let go, and heal. It is often astonishing to witness how quickly people change—almost effortlessly.

 

People frequently say that they have been in therapy with a psychologist for years, talking about this the whole time, but they have not made any progress. Now, with this method, they feel they can truly change.

 

The reason for this is simple: talking provides insights—an essential first step in understanding what is going on. However, true change requires more than just mental awareness. The body also holds patterns of emotional pain, and it is always the last to let go.

 

During a session, when the physical aspect is released, it suddenly becomes much easier to take a significant step forward. Your attention feels freer, and everything becomes lighter.

If you feel stuck in your grieving process, do not hesitate to seek temporary support. Talking freely about your sadness, paying attention to your body, feeling your emotions, and allowing yourself to let go—all of this will help you notice a sense of relief. Life will gradually regain its color.